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Wednesday, July 23, 2014
Anonymous asked:
What are the signs of emotional abuse?

mental-health-advice:

Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.

Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.

Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.

Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.

Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.

Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,

Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.

Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.

Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.

Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.

Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.

Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.

Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.

Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.

Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.

Love, Salem

Wednesday, July 23, 2014
Transatlanticism - Death Cab For Cutie
with 7,261 plays
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
Bold what applies to you!

motherofbirds:

Basics

I am male
I am female
I am neither male or female
I am under the age of 18
I am 18 or older
I am straight
I am gay or lesbian
I am bisexual or pansexual
I am trans

Friendship

I have two or more friends
I have one friend
I have no friends
I have/had a best friend
I am close with my friend(s) 
I spend a lot of time with friends 
I have a crush on a friend
I hate a friend
I wish I had fewer friends
I wish I had more friends

Relationships

I am single
I am in a relationship
I am married
I am a virgin
I often date
I prefer to date extroverted people
I prefer to date people who are like me
I prefer to date people who are unlike me
I take relationships very seriously
I have high standards (but not superficial standards)
I date people who are overweight
I date people who are skinny


Negativity


I have/had depression
I have cried myself to sleep
I have/had anxiety
I am often lonely
I keep a lot of emotions inside
I am scared of talking to people I want to talk more to
I have an eating disorder
I have low self-esteem
I often feel I embarrass myself
I have been abused
I feel people consider me dumb or don’t take me seriously
I am quickly jealous
I feel people want me to be someone/something I’m not
I have been sexually assaulted
I have experienced discrimination/racism

Positivity

I have become a better person
I have gotten out of a bad period of time
I am confident 
I am looking forward to something
I have enjoyed myself over the past week
I have met a famous person
I consider myself a kindhearted person
I am currently feeling relaxed and comfortable
I appreciate the little things in life
I have nobody in my life whom I hate
I have achieved something large this year
I am part of a religion that brings me peace
I have lost a lot of weight 
I have a movie/game/song which cheers me up


I…


…get scared from watching horror movies
…play a sport
read a lot of books
…have allergies
…feel shy around the opposite gender
…am a feminist
…believe in love at first sight
…own an instrument
…can draw
…am listening to music right now
…value romance and friendship equally
…have sneaked out of the house
…am outgoing
…respect people’s comfort zones and personal space
…am deaf
…spend money on a daily basis
…want to write a book
…can ride a horse
…am asexual
…put my hands over my face when I’m flattered
…like the colors pink and yellow
…own an xbox
…shop at least once a week
…have a drivers license
…drink alcoholic beverages
… like having friends of the opposite gender
…get scared by unsettling imagery and screamers
…eat fast food at least twice a week


Likes and Dislikes


I like parties
I dislike parties
I like perfume
I dislike perfume
I like “so bad it’s good” movies 
I dislike “so bad it’s good movies”
I like playing video games
I dislike playing video games
I like chocolate
I dislike chocolate
I like having a busy schedule
I dislike having a busy schedule
I like laughing at my own jokes
I dislike laughing at my own jokes
I like compliments
I dislike compliments
I like heavy metal music (sometimes)
I dislike heavy metal music
I like snow
I dislike snow
I love love love taking walks with someone
I dislike taking walks with someone
I like people who aren’t very talkative
I dislike people who aren’t very talkative



Tuesday, July 22, 2014
crusherccme:

found this gem in the 1996 Cornell Women’s Handbook. it’s what to say when a guy tries to get out of using a condom
Tuesday, July 22, 2014

ivies:

today I went to olive garden and there was a man wearing a fedora behind me and my mother whispered to me “why is that man wearing a hat we are indoors I don’t understand” and he whipped around with all seriousness and said “twilight sparkle came to me in a dream and requested that I wear this crown for the duration of the evening” and me, not knowing what to do just said “ok” but then the guy started laughing and he was like “I’m just kidding I just like hats”

Tuesday, July 22, 2014
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
hairandbrokenglasses:

these are the most anime pigeons ive ever fucking seen
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
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